Did you know that more people actually make big life changes around the start of the new school year, then people do on January 1st? If you made yourself a resolution, and find that you have long abandoned it, now might be the perfect time to try again.But you might be thinking “If I couldn’t do it back in January, how could I be successful now?” Well I will show you!
1. Write it down: Writing down stuff always makes it more official. If you’re crafty, try making your goal into an exciting banner or poster, then put it somewhere you will see daily.
2. Set short and long term goals: It’s a lot easier to accomplish something when you just work on it a little bit at a time. An example is if I want to stop biting my nails. I might start by saying “I will not bite my nails from 4-6pm every day. Then once you have successfully done that for a few weeks, expand your smaller goal so that its one step closer to your bigger goal.
3. Imagine your success! Try to do this at least once everyday. Think about what it is you would like to change, ask yourself how this negatively affects you. Try to see how that plays out in your head. Now, think about how you could solve this problem. See yourself being successful, and feel how great it is to have this problem fixed. Really allow yourself to feel whatever those feelings are. Does it make you feel excited, peaceful, or energized to not deal with this issue anymore? Try to imagine what that success actually feels like. Doing this everyday can really help you stay motivated.
4. Hire Cheerleaders: Most diets that succeed are because people have a workout partner; but a solid support system is super important in any big life change. Find a couple close friends or family members that will be your cheering squad, and can encourage you when you are feeling low.
5. Reward, reward, reward: When you know your parents are going to pay you for it, isn’t it so much easier to do your chores? The same policy goes for our goals. Whenever you accomplish a short term goal, you can give yourself a reward. This way, whenever you’re almost there, thinking about the eventual reward will keep you motivated. Also, plan on giving yourself a bigger reward once you have achieved your final goal. Your rewards don’t have to be expensive. It could be as simple as a free day at the park with friends, but it should be something that you want bad enough to work for.
BONUS: Here is one that YouTube sensation JennaMarbles uses! She says whenever it gets hard to be the best you that you can be, and you are having that ugly cry in the corner, just picture the future you (you know the cooler, calmer, hotter, more awesome you) petting you on the head and saying “There, there… it will be better soon! It may really suck now, but you have to go through this now so that you can become this really awesome future you!”
With these steps, you can accomplish anything you put your mind to, so go get started!
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